Though a friendship ought to be a mutual thing, such is not always the case. We might acknowledge someone as being a friend to us, but are we contributing something to the relationship? In this world we witness friendships developed for varying reasons and must therefore understand how having a friend and being a friendcan be very different things.
Solomon noted. . .
“(4) Wealth brings many new friends, but a poor man is deserted by his friend.” (Proverbs 19:4 ESV)
Just let someone win a lottery or gain a large inheritance and those who perhaps had nothing to do with them beforehand start coming from all directions. However, since a poor man has nothing to share, what can be gained in the relationship? Is collecting friends merely for the purpose of collecting something from them and if there is nothing to be gained why bother?
Solomon reflected further. . .
“(6) Many seek the favor of a generous man, and everyone is a friend to a man who gives gifts. “(7)All a poor man’s brothers hate him; how much more do his friends go far from him!” (Proverbs 19:6-7 ESV)
Here again are noted two extremes. The first part reflects a friendship that is about getting rather than giving! Solomon then noted so called “friends” who seemingly didn’t want to be bothered with helping a poor man. Therefore, as wealth tends to draw some near, poverty can be prone to create distancing.
When we acknowledge this is not the kind of friends we want (or need), we should be compelled to begin with being the kind of friend we ought! Since Solomon acknowledged there is a friend that sticks closer than a brother (Proverbs 18:24), does that characterize our life? Also, since a true friend loves at all times (Proverbs 17:17), is that too the kind we be? As Jesus was accused of being a friend of tax collectors and sinners and responded by saying “wisdom is justified by her deeds” (Matthew 11:19 ESV), may that wisdom speak through our actions as well.
Have a great day NOT SO MUCH BEFRIENDING AS BEING A FRIEND!